How to Stop Worrying And Start Living

The current time is unprecedented and demanding of our mental happiness. With the exposure to new worlds and traveling snatched from us, this confinement to a single place is surely exhausting for many. A difference in the environment triggers appreciation for our stability of a home. But now, the stability of our place seems like a prison to a few. With so much to worry about, enhanced by overthinking, the current pandemic and locking-in has even bored out the introverts.

In such a time, books help us to travel to new places and meet new people and enjoy their experiences. Here is a summary of How to Stop Worrying And Start Living by Dale Carnegie, a pioneer in the field of self-help, which can help us eliminate our anxieties, a necessity at this time. Self-help books have now become more of a cliche and the impact these books can create is diluted. But this book by Dale Carnegie is an original with real-life anecdotes, enhancing our learning from other people’s experiences.

Our life is full of decisions and immediate actions, which floods our mind with worries of small and large importance. These worries have added up exponentially owing to the pandemic, economic concerns, and loneliness. But what we fail to understand is the impact these worries can create. Many health problems arise due to constant worry like stomach ulcers, blood pressure, etc.

Try to control your mental happiness by managing your physical health. Don’t worry about the inevitable but rather control what lies in your own hands, which is your health. One of the things that we often fail to control is our thoughts. Overthinking has been a major concern for insomnia, depression, or even to perform simple day-to-day activities.

Overthinking and emotional instability is also an implicit cause for bad decision making, which puts us in a state of worry as we aren’t taking the best possible action in the situation. Before your mind tries to jump into a rigorous loop of thoughts involving anxiety, take a break for a minute, and try to analyze the situation. Like every decision making step, try to gather the facts and causes of the situation objectively, that is without favoring any solution before-hand.

Based on the facts and evaluating possible solutions, come to a decision and stick to it. It is essential to couple it with immediate action to mark the progress done.

Primarily, worry is considered a habit and it needs to be broken to possess a happy state of mind. We are concerned about minor things in life like our arguments with our family. Often such trivial situations disturb our state of mind for the rest of the day. So, it’s important to not lose our mind on an issue that took less than 15 minutes and focus on realizing all the remaining hours we are going to waste if we just stick to the small incident.

Also, majority of the time we worry about the things that might not occur in the first place. For example, the worry about undergoing an accident while your flying on an airplane. What we fail to understand, is the chance of the event to occur.

*Conditions apply — Please don’t apply probability for catching corona-virus. Have your guard up with this. :P

Also, often when we are put in a difficult situation, where we might lose a job or lose a loved one, we start to question ourselves as if to why it has to occur to us and not anyone else. Complaining repetitively about why you had to undergo something bad simply adds up to our worries. Instead, accept the reality and focus on what we can do right now in the situation. We can pick an effective trick from trading called Stop Loss Order in which the trader sets limits in his trading before-hand to prevent extreme losses. Similarly, put a stop-loss order to your woes, focusing the period in which we would let our emotions to run free for a while. For example, put a 30 minutes time slot in a day to let go of all your anxieties and worries. Once the period is done, recuperate with new energy and don’t bother for the rest of the day.

For many individuals, criticism is often a major source of their worry. We are concerned about the negative feedback we would receive from others. Instead, consider criticism as a positive input because our enemies are good at pointing our weaknesses than we ever can find out . Also , it provides an opportunity for us to work on them. On the other hand, its also essential that with platforms like social media flooded with indefinite voices, we need to guard ourselves against considering everyone’s opinion.

Finally, after all the analysis, we must cultivate a happy and healthy state of mind to prevent these frequent worries and give us the strength to face difficult situations. Firstly, one of the best ways to have a happy mind is hope. Our thoughts have the power to trigger any positive actions in the environment, so it adds value if we can hope for good health, career, and family rather than focusing on what bad we are receiving. Further, observe the positives in your life and see what you can make of them.

Also, picking the right profession can create a lot of impact as work constitutes a major portion of your life. When we don’t enjoy the work we do, it often gets frustrating to go through a normal day. So, choosing a profession you enjoy with a focus on your strengths is one path for a happy state of mind.

Finally, the golden trick that can multiply our happiness and provide a healthy state of mind is by helping others without expecting anything in return. No possession we hold is equal to the joy that arises from the art of giving. We can apply this in current times when there are innumerable people in need of help. But remember, that ingratitude is a common trait among many, so don’t expect only deliver.

In conclusion, even though the book is over 70 years old, the advice it offers is immensely applicable to date and practiced by people of all professions ranging from businessmen to housewives.

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